Whether we admit it or not, we all have "frenemies". A frenemy is someone who is both "friend" and "enemy". It's totally different from a love and hate relationship. It's more complex and complicated as it has that twisted, psycho, sick flavour to it. Its a relationship that is both mutually beneficial or dependent while being competitive, fraught with risk and mistrust.
Frenemies come in different guises and settings - frenemy at work; frenemy amongst friends; frenemy amongst business rivals etc.
I confess to have several frenemies at work. I consider a work colleague one when - he/she can be a pal one day and stab you in the back the next. Although some might argue that I should learn to live with it and this is a common workplace peril; nevertheless, why do certain colleagues morph into frenemies? Is it because they are congenitally unable to have true friends?; or that's the way these people operate. You may be friends when all is smooth sailing, but when the chips are down, your frenemy will never take the fall.
It's so sad that some people are so laden with fear about their political position or their competence that they never miss an opportunity to plunge the blade in the back. Keeping a frenemy at a distance to minimize the risk of being stabbed doesn't really work. Face it, part of the reason your relationship developed as it did is because the two of you are too dependent on one another, and share too many goals or project to disentangle your professional fortunes.
Frenemies come in different guises and settings - frenemy at work; frenemy amongst friends; frenemy amongst business rivals etc.
I confess to have several frenemies at work. I consider a work colleague one when - he/she can be a pal one day and stab you in the back the next. Although some might argue that I should learn to live with it and this is a common workplace peril; nevertheless, why do certain colleagues morph into frenemies? Is it because they are congenitally unable to have true friends?; or that's the way these people operate. You may be friends when all is smooth sailing, but when the chips are down, your frenemy will never take the fall.
It's so sad that some people are so laden with fear about their political position or their competence that they never miss an opportunity to plunge the blade in the back. Keeping a frenemy at a distance to minimize the risk of being stabbed doesn't really work. Face it, part of the reason your relationship developed as it did is because the two of you are too dependent on one another, and share too many goals or project to disentangle your professional fortunes.
So, how do we deal with our frenemies at work?? Imagine this -- you go up to your frenemy and said "weapon of choice: pistols -- duel at dawn"!! Of course the victor is me, myself and I!!
3 comments:
Frenemies... Such a true thing!! I think sometimes you become frenemies because you actually truly are friends outside work, but at work then you just want to thrive to be at the top and appear to be the better one that you become that frenemy... How to handle frenemies? Entah... be one? lol... Tell me when you know the right answer please... xx
How to treat frenemies? Well...there are a lot of suggestions. Both good and evil...which one do you want???? hahahaha.
Frenemies.. I have those... Though, I try to move away from negative aspect of life... moving towards cleaner, brighter, fresher and positive aspect to living! *wink* Moving away helps :)
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